In years past the responsibility of the Father of the Bride was to pay for the entire wedding. Families would save for years or sell assets to be able to give their daughter the wedding they deserved. I can hear a collective sigh of relief from Father’s of the Bride as they realize that thankfully that tradition has changed. So just want are the expectations of the Father of the Bride in 2014?
Many Father’s and of course this includes the Bride’s Mother as well contribute to the cost of the wedding. It is a good idea to sit down and discuss what is reasonable for you as Father of the Bride to afford. This is important as it may determine the size of the wedding, venue and menu etc. Father’s of the Bride, do not put yourself in financial jeopardy for your daughter’s wedding!!! Be realistic in this time of downsizing and unemployment. Your can be more than financially supportive. Your involvement can be in running errands, booking hotel rooms for guests, and of course being emotionally supportive to your daughter through planning and on the big day.
One of the tasks of Father of the Bride has been and continues to be to walk their daughter down the aisle. What a proud moment that I am sure you have dreamed about since you first looked into her eyes on the day she was born. With blended families these days, be open to sharing this honour with a step-father or with the Mother of the Bride as well.
During the reception there is usually a time for speeches. Perhaps this is something you can do jointly with the Bride’s Mother. Remember to prepare ahead and have something written down. It will give more meaning to what is said. This is a great time to share a few memories but remember the main celebrants this day are you daughter and her new partner.
The tradition of the Father/Daughter dance still exists, in fact there are some funky examples on You Tube. Do what you and your daughter feel comfortable with, and of course the music is her choice.
At the reception take time and go to each guest and thank them for coming. Find out a bit about how they know your daughter if you don’t know them. Make sure they are having a great time.
And last but not least the responsibility of the Father of the Bride is to enjoy the day. You have been a very important person in the life of your daughter, celebrate who she has been, who she is and who she is becoming!