Today, we look at the Responsibilities of the Maid of Honour, or to keep up with today’s changes it could be the Man of Honour *. Aside from standing up beside the Bride and most often being one of the two legal witnesses signing along with the couple, what is expected of them?
Prior to the wedding, the Maid of Honour will help the bride choose her dress, menu, venue and usually hosts a shower with input from the Bride and Mothers of the Bride and Groom. They can assist to let people know where the couple are registered should they be asked about gifts.
During the Bridal Shower the Maid of Honour will usually be the one who writes down the gifts given. (on the card directly is a good option). The Maid of Honour will also assist the other Bridesmaids with shower introductions and games. The Maid of Honour can also assist with preparing invitations, collecting addresses and thank you’s.
The Maid of Honour can also assist with planning the Bachelorette. Make sure it is tasteful, within everyone’s budget and include input from all the ladies. If there is a Stag and Doe also assist with time and effort in the planning and doing of that event.
The Maid of Honour can help out at the Rehearsal dinner and of course be available for the rehearsal. They should help organize the ‘girls’ on the day of the wedding, making sure they know the schedule and what is expected of them, as well as being available to assist the Bride with getting ready. During the ceremony make sure the Bride’s dress is situated as it should, be ready to take the Bride’s bouquet (usually just before the vows) bring them both to the signing table and place them on the table so the bride’s bouquet and yours will look nice for pics, there you will of course be one of the witnesses.
At the reception, be prepared to share a few friendship stories about the bride and offer a toast to the Best Man and Happy Couple. You are also needed to lock up the “Money Cards” early in the evening and assist with any clean up at the end.
Last but not least, provide moral support and be a good listener leading up to, during and after the wedding. It can be wonderful but also overwhelming and stressful for your friend. You can make a big difference in keeping things in perspective and calm.
After the wedding, make sure and thank the Bride for such an honour.
* the responsibilities of the Man of Honour will be slightly changed, but offering her support and encouragement throughout the planning and wedding will be a great help.